a good one, a real one,
someone who has given you something that no one else ever exactly has,,,
then be slow to give up on them, find it in your heart to see them with patience.
if they are quiet, seem to be acting differently than you've come to expect or maybe not giving at the level you are used to, perhaps they are in hibernation, playing dead in an attempt to survive a pain or a difficulty stronger than they know how to handle gracefully.
be slow to believe the worst; assumption is a ruinous and untrustworthy advisor.
the surface of something is most always the smallest percentage of it. look at how much of what is vital about you exists beneath your skin.
things are rarely as they appear, and when you judge something before its time, you separate yourself from much worth experiencing - like biting into and spitting out a sour apple, weeks before it is ripe.
the butcher's knife of condemnation is good for little but making bloody messes.
sometimes people need room to grow. what benefit is it to you to hold other people to your measurements? perhaps they travel in a different direction than you have been, are dealing with a terrain that has different challenges than your own, and at a different speed. there is no way for you to know for sure.
even if an assumption is popular, it doesn't make it true. a thousand people staring at the surface will see no deeper than one, and lend no more credence. watch for the tendency for your fears to give such shallow perception non-existent weight.
in this world of flux and flex, an open heart and a ready shoulder are often the best gift you can give to a friend who's going through a rough time. and, those being offered, a peaceful space - so they can find their way through their mazes at their own pace.
good friends are worth the wait.
remember we often receive in relation to what we have given; you never know when it may be your turn to face the lonely mountain passes. believe me, they are more easily overcome with the help of good friends.
love to each and every one of you,,,
jesh *
33 comments:
Not always easy advice to follow, but great words, Jesh.
Well said, thanks for the reminder - the friendships I have had that have had these hardships are so much deeper than the easy ones. Perseverance is rewarding. For everyone
grains of sand that are worth their weight in gold, my friend. and, indeed, you have been a friend even when you didn't know it : )
how often we forget to be the friend we need to be to others in their own time of need. we never truly know what's brewing inside one another, we can only offer our best. :)
thanks jesh. :)
Thank you.
lovely as always, dear jesh.
so true~
such truth in these words.
sad, how experiences like these have played out, again and again. how friends have been abandoned (or even turned against) when they most need those others. when they are most judged. and most often left.
...and, most lonely.
excellent perspective, jesh.
jesh. wow. how beautifully said. and how quick I am to be a surface judger.... thank you for sharing and for pushing us all to love deeper and more openly friend.
Beautifully written. Thank you!
keep your faith.....
lovely. so lovely.
wow jesh, these words are just exactly what I needed to hear, and I am so grateful to you for the stop me in my tracks reminder.
There you go again, making me smile inside. Glad there's people like you in my (albeit extended) world, Jesh.
My grandmother said "thank you," by the way.
What a brilliant post. Thank you for taking the time to put this all into words. It will be a vital tool in my life that I am more conscious of. Thank you for the reminder, I needed this little tap on the shoulder! Beautifully written as always:) K
*sigh* you must have been reading my mind lately.
Thank you for posting this, I needed to hear it today xxx
Top Quality buddy. Life is awesome!
Wonderful words.....I hope to be that friend that can see through the silence.
so poignant.
so beautiful...
thank you.
So true, I read it twice and am going to print it out to paste in my journal because I needed it, right now, in this place where I am at.
You read like a modern day Rumi or Fenelon.
Blessings, Jo
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i find that it can be the most difficult when that "friend" is also "family". we tend to expect so much of one another, not really being as forgiving or understanding with those we are closest to.
How beautiful for you to share your heart with the world Jesh! You've touched me from wherever you are. Thank you - my God - Thank you!
2handsjo
is it an omen from God? that everytime im in a mess... i have the urge to go to your site... and i always, always find something. things that you write that mean so much to me... that calm me down. put me back to earth... to sanity.
thank you very much Jesh for sharing your wise, deep words. thank you from the bottom of my heart.
C
superb!
very nice. thank you.
:D
I am SO glad I looked at your blog today, this is something I've really needed to hear this week.
Thank you so much!
I cannot begin to tell you how much I needed to read this post today. Divine Intervention. Thank you.
You can not even begin to imagine how timely and accurate your post is. Your words have spoken directly into the situation in my life with my friend.
God Bless!
wat a wonderful sharin jesh, ill put this post on my blog (if you dont mind)... to remind myself to be a friend, always!!..thankew for sharin once again! ;)
Wow, just what I needed to hear. Thanks!
what a tool for strength. this post is what i need to read every morning i wake up.
thank you,
Peg Buckner
thank you. your words speak exactly what i had just been through and what i had hope for from a friend. your reflections always speak the truth. thank you for verbalizing it so beautifully. i had been following your tweets, and had favorite many of them!! thanks jesh!
through links, I came here today, so needing the words of love, light, wisdom, strength, courage...thank you for being you and sharing it here. I treasure the gift of your words today....
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